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While stumbling, I came upon a page of being human rules from West Hartford Counselling Centre. Not only did I give it the green thumbs up but I have printed the page out to give to all of my counselling clients. Like the West Hartford psychotherapists, I am not a “poor you” therapist, “your life is dreadful and I will fix it for you”. I am tough love and empowerment in practice. I help my clients take responsibility when the responsibility is theirs. I will not leave clients to drown in victim-pool. I throw a life buoy to help pull themselves to safety because their stroke is better than mine. I believe we can create a better life for ourselves by recognising and giving out positive messages and being willing to receive positivity back.

Article by Megan Bayliss

I like the following Rules of Being Human so much that I m going to put them into my practice’s welcome packages.

• You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for as long as you live.  How you take care of it or fail to take care of it can make an enormous difference in the quality of your life.
• You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called Life.  Each day, you will be presented with opportunities to learn what you need to know.  The lessons presented are often completely different from those you think you need.
• There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error and experimentation.  You can learn as much from failure as you can from success. Maybe more.
• A lesson is repeated until it is learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it.  When you have learned it (as evidenced by a change in your attitude and ultimately your behavior) then you can go on to the next lesson.
• Learning lessons does not end. There is no stage of life that does not contain some lessons.  As long as you live there will be something more to learn.
• “There” is no better than “here”. When your “there” has become a “here” you will simply discover another “there” that will again look better than your “here.” Don’t be fooled by believing that the unattainable is better than what you have.
• Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.  When tempted to criticize others, ask yourself why you feel so strongly.
• What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you create with those tools and resources is up to you.  Remember that through desire, goal setting and unflagging effort you can have anything you want. Persistence is the key to success.
• The answers lie inside of you. The solutions to all of life’s problems lie within your grasp.  All you need to do is ask, look, listen and trust yourself.

Do you work with people? Share these life rules to help create change and a better life for all of us.