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Life Story Scrapbook Work with foster or adopted children

September 26th 2007 by Megan Bayliss in Child Abuse

Children in foster care (and often adopted children) have a HUGE need to know why they are living away from their biological families. When they leave foster care, they often have little factual or even anecdotal information to make sense of having been there. They struggle to explain their life history to new people that they meet and enter into relationships with, let alone to themselves.

If you are caring for a child or young person in out of home care, help them to put together their experiences by providing them with a life story book that can be added to over the years.

I first heard about Life Story Work in 1997. I was working with children who had been sexually abused. Some of the seminal writers from England were talking about a process called “Life Story Books” for children who would never be returned to their abusive families. Whilst it sounded interesting, I had little time or energy to put into finding out about something that would not be beneficial to the children I worked with. Out child protection system did not adopt children out just because they may never go home to their natural parents. Our children in out of home care went to loving foster families who would meet all the child’s needs, including emotional and information needs. Why would our foster children need a Life Story Book? Our Child Protection system had all the factual information that was needed and most of the kids I worked with had regular contact with their families. No…all too hard. I didn’t need to know about it because I’d never use it. It was someone else’s job. A job for someone that had time and a creative flair for doing those arty crafty creative things.

Then I became a foster carer! How arrogant were my assumptions about it being a job for some other time deficit person! My foster children had no factual information nor were they able to integrate fact because they were too traumatised. Despite this, my foster children were desperate for stories about their biological families and stole some of my family stories to make their own.

Some years following my first arrogant and wrong assumption, I worked as a Child Protection Worker in the U.K. I saw the absolute change in a child knowing their full history (yes, even the bad bits) AND healing through the process of facing a lifetime of rejection, neglect and harm.

Life story work is not merely an elaborate photo album or a fun thing to do. It is a three part therapeutic process of integrating and healing past pains with a view toward moving to a positive future. It is a part of thereauputic or (re)intuitive parenting process of change with attachment disordered children or children who require knowledge around why they are in care.

How do I do life story work and it’s not really my job. Let’s leave that for the statutory workers. Rubbish. It is part of your job as a foster carer. You are in a perfect position to help collect and set out information and to assist your foster child to work through some of the issues that may be creating havoc in your home. The process of helping is:

1. Information collection,
2. Integration of the information by the child, and
3. the making of a book that can be added to (or even subtracted from) throughout the years.

It is the child’s book: the sum of their life, of who they are and where they came from. You are part of their life and therefore it is therapeutic and helpful to the child that you are part of the book making process.

It is a book that is a therapeutic tool, written by someone other than the child - the Life Story worker/s. It contains the good and the bad, the truth and the myths. It is everything that has impacted upon the child.

We are all part of the child’s story and we cannot afford to keep expecting that someone else will begin the child’s Life Story Work. Do we expect the child’s schoolteacher to engage in solution oriented therapy because that’s what we assess the child requires?

Whose job is it to do the Life Story Work? When I began doing Life Story Work I was worried that I may be breaching statutory laws. I saw the work as belonging solely to Child Safety Officers. My Australian experience with Child Safety workers told me that they were too busy and spent minimal time on their case loads and Life Story Work wasn’t being achieved. Also, their understanding of Life Story Work appeared to fit within a Freedom of Information framework - what they had was what they used. I handled it by not doing it. In the U.K., SACCS has nominated workers that only do Life Story Work - they are neither statutory workers, carers or the child’s counselor. Their sole task is to complete Life Story Work.

In the borough I worked in London we were able to do our own Life Story Work which meant I collected, collated, and worked therapeutically with the foster children on our case loads. I LOVED it. I now advocate that it is every persons responsibility to be an active participant in achieving Life Story Work for kids in out of home care.

Where do I get Life Story information from?

Start with a genogram (a family map or tree)
Move to an eco map (who has or has had contact with the child)
Talk to significant people in the child’s life (statutory workers, schoolteachers, foster carers, birth parents). Find out first from the welfare agency who you are allowed to contact and how far you are allowed to go in making contacts. WORK IN PARTNERSHIP with the welfare agency.
Ask family members (old and new) to write letters to be included in the Life Story Book.
Take photos - even of the door in a house the child once lived.
Use children’s art work done in therapy or at home.
Research - find out addresses, old telephone numbers, family rituals, family secrets, family celebrations.
Do internet searches by putting in the child/family name. Include anything you find.
Contact past therapists and seek permission to include relevant information.

How to help the child integrate the information:

Foster Carer or adopted parent?- Always work with a therapist or statutory worker. Check the accuracy of information you are including with those people. Ask for at home strategies and interventions to help in the task of unpleasant information integration.

Counselor - draw upon a range of therapeutic interventions to assist the child to come to terms with the information. This is a healing process and you must use best practice principals and ethical considerations in everything you do. Remember too that your work will be open to scrutiny - stay accountable - know that this document could one day end up as evidence.

Show the child your work as you complete pages. Allow them to write notes to be included on the page. They may disagree with what you have written. This is their right and is part of the integration process.

How to put the book together:

The book needs to be something that can be added to. Many people use a ring binder. Pages can be easily added over the years.
Some people provide DVD’s or CD’s. It’s difficult to add to these though.
My love and preferred way to engage everyone in the process is for using a scrapbooking method of compilation (journaling is a central tenet of life story work) and scrapbook albums - the top fill pages allow for hiding things that the child may not want to talk about yet, the plastic covers offer protection and it is easy to buy refills. Scrapbook albums are also acid free and WILL NOT destroy photographs. PERFECT.
For children from a different culture it may be appropriate to use a different method of collation - a suitcase, a bag, a box, a postal cylinder. Use something that will have meaning to the child and their culture.

Where and when to start:

Start today. The longer you put it off, the less likely you are to do it.
Start with the day’s occurrences, at the beginning of life, at the time the child came into your care, or you can work backward. It doesn’t matter - just START. This will become a document that can be added to, pages changed around, and even passed to other carers to add to.
If you’re a counselor, change your notes into scrapbook pages to begin the process. What happened today? How do you journal and decorate it? YOU JUST DO IT. Under whelm yourself, start with making a paper bag album of today’s session (above photo is of a training booklet for life story work - it is made from two decorated paper lunch bags).
Write a therapeutic letter to the child. Explain in the letter why you’re in their life, what you know about them, what you see in them, what you hope for them. Make this letter the start of your child’s Life Story Book. If the child ends up hating you they can change the placement of the letter, hide it between pages, or even trash it if they choose to.

There is no right or wrong way to get the task of Life Story Work done, just remember that Life Story Work is about telling a healing story of a time of the child. The journaling (words of fact, hope, etc) supports the pictures, rather than pictures supporting a bit of writing.

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