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Why Children Accommodate Secrets About Sexual Abuse

 Article by Megan Bayliss.
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Ronald Summit, M.D., a central writer in the area of child sexual abuse, offered a five-part way for us to understand why children keep secrets about and accommodate ongoing sexual abuse.

When we accommodate something, we put up with, allow it to happen and often even make it happen. Children are no different. Kids accommodate our bad moods, our boring explanations, our rules and even our very bad behaviour toward them. Our partners accommodate bad behaviour from us that they would never accommodate from another person. Why?

We accommodate bad behaviour from people we love because we have a history with them and have knowledge about why they are acting bad, or, we don’t know what to do to make the behaviour cease.

Children accommodate sexual abuse because often they know the perpetrator (85% of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by somebody well known to the child) and because they have no idea what to do about it. The child becomes locked into a frozen syndrome of isolation. They may be in trouble if they tell and they are in trouble if they do not tell.

Here is how Ronald Summit categorized children’s behaviour, thoughts and feelings according to his Child Sexual Abuse Accommodation Syndrome:

• Secrecy

• Helplessness

• Entrapment and accommodation

• Delayed, conflicted and unconvincing disclosure

• Retraction 

Over the next few weeks, we will take a closer look at each of Summit’s accommodation categories. In the meantime, if you are writing in the area of child protection or child abuse, consider submitting to the Carnival Against Child Abuse. The more voices that cry out against child abuse, the quicker we can keep all of our children safe. The next Carnival Against Child Abuse (June first birthday edition) will be hosted at Survivors can Thrive. The most recent edition of the Carnival Against Child Abuse was hosted here at Imaginif…Child Protection Became Serious Business. Our family of writers support ending child abuse. Do you?